“I just can’t do _________ now.”
Five questions you can ask anytime you’re facing an obstacle or a potential problem that you want to demolish are:
1. “Who says?”
2. “Why do I believe that?”
3. “What’s the cost of not doing this?”
4. “Is there a piece of this we can solve now?”
5. “If ___________ were in my shoes, how would he/she solve it?” ( Fill in the blank with a person E.g. I picked: My dad, my wife, Bill Gates, Bob Penaloza (my mentor), Mya Angelou, Samuel L. Jackson (a no-nonsense actor).
Ask these five questions on a regular basis and you’ll be surprised at how frequently they help you break through the obstacles you’re currently facing.
You might not come up with the final solution right away, but just by asking this question you’ll start looking at your obstacle more creatively and objectively—and that might put you on the path to the right solution.
The Ladies Book Club Zumba Jam!
Come dance the night away to American and Latin Old School songs. A 45 minute low intensity workout.... did I say WORK OUT! Who knew working out can be so much fun!
Every Monday and Thursday night from 8:15pm - 9pm
Where: Camden, College Park Maryland
Includes assessment, plan, blog on eating tips, email reminders and travel plan if you travel.
Cost: $70 per month
Today I taught the toughest class in my entire career of teaching. I was subbing a senior class for a colleague so got the specs from her on what to do. When I walked in there were 15+ seniors all strapped into their wheelchairs; ages 87-97. I was instructed to place their 1lb free weights and bands in each chair while introducing myself. Sat down hit play on my iPod and started moving. No one moved….I shimmied and shake but they COULDNOT move! In “panic mode” I got up and started doing the Chicken Dance..they laughed! It was then I noted that there was movement in their face…their eyes and mouth and eye brows. I started there, and then progressed to tiny movements in hands and feet. I never used the weights or bands; for they could not pick them up due to a stroke or other. I then did the “Carlton Dance” for more laughter. They want to know when I am coming back and if I can dance like Sammy Davis Jr.! I will learn to dance like Sammy for: I got them to MOVE!
The magic of Christmas is powerful! It’s a time when everyone around us finds the ability to love one another, to renew our faith and bring hope to those drifting in despair. I remember my early years when my parents were young in their marriage and had very little; living in a tiny one bed room apartment Diego Martin in Trinidad. They never had enough money to buy high-end toys or fancy clothing. It was a time for prayer and giving, not receiving. Faith, Hope and Love filled our home. Ahh the food: Sorrel, Black Rum Cake, Pasteles, Chow Chow and Ham and Parang playing on the radio. I close my eyes then and now and feel the Spirit of my Christmas Past. Over the years my gifts never grew bigger, but, my heart for giving did. To quote Charles Dickens' classic tale, "A Christmas Carol," "I will honor Christmas in my heart and try to keep it all the year." - To you a Merry Christmas from THE BRYAN FAMILY of Maryland and Trinidad.
"Dad I would like learn what you do for a living! You are great with kids! " said my daughter. This morning saw my son's school project on Heros! In bold letter were: MY DAD'S MY HERO! Followed by paragraphs on why. WOW! Tears in my eyes today. I need to keep it going!
My 93yr old Thursday morning Client:
Me: Mrs J you are very late!
Mrs J: I was ironing my grandson's pants at 7am then decided to put away my daughter's laundry and cook her dinner. That took long!
Me: But we had a 1030am training session. It's 1pm now! I tried calling you! Left you messages!! Why are you here?
Mrs J: Oh I take the phone off during the day. Too many people calling to sell stuff. Oh ...those are your messages here? It's only1pm I can wait till you are done w...ith.... her!
Me: Mrs J you always do this! You have to be on time....
Mrs J: Sonny!!! I am never on time since 1978! I am now on God's time. I can die tonight! So I will wait when you done with her....and we can train then. I made you brownies when I made dinner for my daughter...got walnuts: your favorite. I will get on the bike sonny!
Me: Okkkkkk! Okkkkkk Mrs J see you at 2pm!
Mrs J: She's skinny thing....cannot she finish training at 1:30pm.
Me: (take a deep breathe)....smile!!
Today, after my kids did their daily evening chores I sat them down to talk; for today would be different. I thanked them for the hard work they did all month, extend my arms and said all I can give was this clean simple home, was a tough month and so no allowance for October. They each took my extended arms and embraced themselves within and said this was all they needed as they hugged me. I hugged them even tighter. Thank you!
Yesterday morning, if you missed my kids and I on the air WPGC 95.5FM The Pablo Show. I enjoyed questions asked on fatherhood (teen dating,school grades, etc) and what's it like to train Radio Talk Show Host Pablo Sato: The Pablo Show on WPGC 95.5FM- for his wedding! By the way; He lost 25lbs! It also gave me the opportunity to talk about my wellness programs for the Aging and my passion for growing junior golf in the public high schools in Maryland.
As I stood in the door way of my Zumba class, a welled dressed old man walked up to me:
" I notice you are greeting your ladies as they walked in, can I join you?"
" Sure love to have you!"
As I shook the next person's hand, I notice he stood next to me and began kissing the cheek of each of the ladies entering my class.
" Sir, what are you doing?"
" I am joining you ...oh no I am not taking your class but I will help you greet each of these lovely ladies, you look overwhelmed!"
I ask the ladies if they mind a kiss on their cheeks and they didn't. As I said good bye to the little old man he held my hand and said thank you... He missed kissing his wife every day now that she was gone. I said anytime; see you next week!
Old Habits never die. A few tips to get you there are: Decide to change; Believe in change; Pick one specific habit to change; Identify the routine; Isolate the cue; Experiment with rewards and PLAN!