As I was driving back from my daughter's ballet class a few years ago, I couldn't stop thinking about a certain topic that has been on my mind for some time. What are our real reasons for working out and eating right? How can this affect our results? I know we all claim to want to be healthier but is this our real reason? If you start any workout regiment or prescription with a feeling of anxiety or a deep need to look "Skinner", I can assure you that you will not get the results you want. How do I know? Because I have done it over and over again. Most of us want this to be a quick fix and really aren't looking long term so we end up gain all the weight back. Make LIFE changes to support the physical change you want in your body. Here is a sad secret of mine-
I used to be in a silent competition with EVERYONE! If someone lost an inch I just HAD to lose three. If someone did 8 repetitions, I had to do 28. Instead of focussing on myself and were I was physically and mentally that day, I was more worried about the "skinner" chic a few feet away from me. As a result, I tended to feel dissatisfied with my results and fustrated with myself in general. Let me tell you, nothing will ever turn out right if you surround yourself with this type of energy. Finally, I learned that I had to be honest with myself about what my true reasons were and if they were positive reasons (be healthier) or negative reasons (be smaller than so and so). To be honest, this happened to me yesterday!!
I was in Back2Basics with my friend and trainer Reilly Kelleher, and there was a girl next to me that was doing double of everything I did. Instead of feeling proud of myself that I completed the workout with great form and a nice time, I was more worried about how I should have done more than her and pissed because I hadn't. Of course, I had to step back and stop myself from letting those feelings take root and cause me to feel horrible for the rest of the day. Instead I forced myself to congratulate her and promised myself that I would attempt to do double the workout next time. Really, I am doing this workout for myself not her...Just as she was doing her workout for her not me...Not even five minutes afterwards, I started feeling happy about what I accomplished again and we even did another set of double unders together.
These aren't the only negative reasons that I have had to do away with and replace with more positive motivators, and really, I did not start seeing results physically until I started to change myself mentally and spiritually first. Soooooo, I would really encourage everyone to take a good look at what their honest reasons are for working out and/or changing their eating habits, and/or changing their lifestyle period. If you can easily share this with others, than they may be great reasons; but, if you find yourself keeping them secrets or feel any type of anxiety or negative feelings about the reasons, then you may wish to evaluate them a little more and see if you can let those progress-blocking motivators go.
Thanks for reading my ramblings. Tell me, though, what do you think about being honest in our motivators or reasons?