How many times have you said to yourself that you are going to make it a goal to be healthier? How many times have you attempted and once you didn't see instant results, you gave up and quit?
Let me ask you this....why? Why are you giving up on yourself before you even begin? Understanding that this process will not happen overnight is your first obstacle to overcome. Knowing that this is not about "losing weight", it's about a lifestyle change is obstacle 2. Most importantly, staying committed will be your BIGGEST obstacle of all.
Look in the mirror, know that you are important and worth the time and get out of your own way to begin the first steps to an exciting journey. Do not do it because it is the beginning of the new year, do it because you are ready to make that change, because you don't want to be unhealthy, because you want to set an example for your children and family and because you are ready!
Baby steps, do not write down a huge goal which will get you discouraged after only a couple of weeks. Write down a small goal and once you have reached it, strive for the next one and then the next one. You have it in you. Get the support and help and take that step......
I'll be waiting for you at the finish line.
Happy New Year to all!!
This is something that has been laying heavy on my mind for a while. Something that still affects me daily and I NEVER want anyone to feel like this. I have some skeletons in my closet, as I am sure many do. I would like to open the door, tear it down and throw it out. IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON!
When I found out I was pregnant with my son, I weighed in at 128 (I am 5'7") I was young, scared and shocked but ready to face what was about to come. As the pregnancy went on, I didn't gain much weight at first. Actually, I really didn't start to show until I was about 7 months. I had some complications, I started eating poorly, I was not allowed to exercise anymore, I was borderline diabetic and I retained so much water that if you took a pin and pricked me, I probably would have started leaking. Finally after a difficult 3rd trimester the Dr decided to induce. My weight right before this?? 198!! Yep, I had gained 70lbs!!
I had a horrible delivery which ended in a c-section and it was touch and go with my son but we made it through. I think back after all these years and realize; it's not the pregnancy that was the problem but what happened after that affects me still to this day almost 16 years later.
After I had him, his father would poke fun at me. Making comments about my weight, pushing his finger in my belly. Slapping my butt to make it jiggle. He thought this was funny but it hurt more than anything I had endured. This one comment he made one day still echos in my head as though it was yesterday. I was making a joke saying since we needed money I would be an exotic dancer. His reply?? "Char, the only thing exotic about you are the stretch marks you have on your hips." WOW?! I am still waiting for that dagger to be pulled out.
I then became obsessed, determined to get back into shape. After the Doc gave me the OK, I was at the gym, 2hrs a day 5-6 days a week. I started to starve myself. Why?? Because I wanted to please him! You heard me correctly, HIM!!?? It was never about me at first. I didn't feel good enough, special enough, pretty enough, thin enough and what I saw in the mirror, I guarantee was not what others saw.
We eventually broke up but unfortunately, I brought my insecurities into other relationships (I should say what little relationships as I pushed everyone away in fear that I was not good enough) I may have come across confident but inside I felt like a little kid sitting in the fetal position afraid of what people would say or think.
What is my point to all of this? I don't want anyone to ever feel this way. If you are not loved for who you are, then you are not loved and you will find someone who will!!
Make changes for yourself, to be a better and healthier you! Do not hurt yourself just because you are doing everything in your power to make someone else happy. The truth is, they don't love their self and they want to bring you down in their misery.
I am so lucky to have found my husband and my friends who lift me up everyday!! I will be honest, every so often I find that insecure person peaking out but I shove her back inside and I only hope that eventually she will just leave me the hell alone!! Until then, I have my support team and I am grateful!!
I workout for me, I eat healthy and make smart choices......FOR ME!!
So you have tried diets, workouts, the "next big thing" and it does not work or the weight comes back. The problem here is if you are trying any "fad", if it is not sustainable then it WILL come back.
You hear this all the time but do you truly understand that it is a lifestyle change? It' really is not that difficult. Watch what you are eating throughout the day and wokout 3-4 days a week to maintain. So you say that it is easier said then done? Why?
That's what you need to figure out. In order to change your body you MUST change your mind first. Why are you eating when you are stressed, or upset, or happy or sad? What can you replace it with? Don't reward or punish yourself with food. It will only sabatoge your progress and hurt you long run.
You are much to important, to your family, friends, neighbors and even the person who had a better day all because you smiled and said hello! Take your frustrations out on your workout, it's a win-win situation. You are relieving stress while taking care of YOU.
Find your soulmate workout. The one workout that is so much fun, it does not feel like a workout. You have to look around and figure it out. If you start talking to others likes and dislikes, you can get a grasp on what is out there and what you will enjoy.
Instead of lifting that cupcake to your mouth when you're upset, how about lifting a bar bell instead?
Find the help you need; someone to talk to to get all of your stress, problems and difficulties off of your chest instead of drowning them in food.
It takes time but with practice, patience and time comes growth and I know you will be AMAZING!
When making that commitment to lose weight, get fit and healthy; you have to decide what fit is to you. Don’t look at a person in the gym or a picture in a magazine and feel that is “fit”. You can find a person and eat exactly how they are eating, do the exact same workout that they are doing and follow their schedule to a t and you will still not look like them. We all have different body types and we need to learn to love and except them for what they are.
Fit does not have to be a specific weight or look, it can be a healthy weight, eating well and exercising regularly. If it means having a “6 pack” and completely shredded then go for that. What I am trying to get at is don’t go into your journey with a muscle magazine in one hand while taking a pic with your phone in the other feeling that is what you are supposed to look like when starting your journey of health and fitness.
You need to have one goal at a time. Small, attainable and realistic! Once you have reached that goal, strive for another and then another. Love yourself, your body and you will look exactly how you are supposed to.
Ask yourself this…..”What does “fit” mean to ME?” Once you have answered that question, set your first goal and reach it, BABY!!
All to often I hear the words; "I'm too busy, I'm tired, I have no one to watch my kids" and the list goes on and on. I can say from personal experience that I let those excuses get in the way of my own health and fitness which then ended in a 35lb weight gain.
You have to make a list of your daily activities, prioritize and understand that your health should be #1 no matter what. It is a proven fact that if you want something bad enough, you will do what it takes to get it. So maybe that's the problem. Maybe you don't want it bad enough? You look down at the scale and get frustrated or upset when looking in the mirror, yet make no changes to make a difference.
I am here to say, it is time to dig deep down and find out what is it that is TRULY holding you back. Not the excuses, the reason why you are self sabotaging. Are you afraid of failure? I can promise you this. When you make the commitment and take the time to work on your body inside and out; there will be a change. You have to give it time and it has to be part of your lifestyle not just a few months while you get down to the size you want to be. If you quit after you reach your goal, you will gain it back and be right back at square one again.
Schedule your workouts into your day the same way you do any other appointments. This way you are more likely to stick with them instead of put them on the back burner or until "tomorrow". Get up earlier to do your workout or stay up a little later. It is possible even with a back-to-back schedule
Set short term goals each week or even each day. Put a dollar in a jar for every workout that you do and once you fill that jar, reward yourslef with something orther then food. Make it fun, give yourself something to look forward to and be the best you can be!
It can be difficult when you are not getting the support you not only want but need from home. Do not let this discourage you from your journey to a healthier you. It will be more difficult but if you want it, then you must go for it. When you are healthier you can be more productive not only for yourself but your family, friends and even your job.
Do not feel selfish as you make these changes for yourself, look at it as making those changes for everyone. If you are unhealthy and sick, you are no good to anyone else so why not give yourself more energy, less stress, less sickness and become the super hero that is hiding within!
Did you know that working out one hour a day averages out to 4% of your entire day? Yep, true story! That does not sound so bad now does it?
If you are not getting the support from home, find a friend, a group and/or some type of accountabilty partner. This will help both of you out while pushing and feeding off of eachother. Amp up your game and add some friendly competition. This all will only help improve your health and fitness.
Make it fun, and first and foremost... do it for YOU!
It is difficult for anyone to stay motivated when you are not seeing results NOW. You have to understand that it did not take one day to put the weight and unhealthy habits on and it will absolutely not change in one day. When you start making healthy changes (ie: exercise, diet) your body has to adjust and adapt. Sometimes there are reasons as to why there is no change and it is important for you to speak with a fitness professional so we can look at the big picture and disect it into many little pics and figure out why there are no changes. It can be something as simple as your calorie defecit to what you are doing in your daily activity.
Always understand that no matter what, there are changes going on. When they are not seen, that does not mean that they are not there. Never get discouraged and never give up! You are giving your body, your health and your way of living better quality and you deserve it.
Need motivation? Find a workout buddy, join a class or a group. Whatever you need to do.....JUST DO IT!! It takes time, it takes practice and it takes PATIENCE!