Get out of your own way. Seriously! This may not be the constructive beginning to a blog that you might expect but I urge you to hear me anyway. Get out of your own way!
I talk to so many clients week in and week out who say that they really want a change. But do they? How much do you really want it? Are you willing to get out of your own way for it? Are you willing to break some old habits? Are you willing to let of your comfort foods and comfortable routines? Are you willing to struggle? That is what it is going to be. That is what it is going to take to make any significant change. To stare into the deep, dark corners of your life and face the things that make you uncomfortable. Deal with them!
A great quote used in local ad campaigns by the United Way is that “nothing ever changes if nothing ever changes.” This Yogi Berra-ism may be overly simplistic because with all living creatures, we are either growing or we are dying. If you and I are not actively nurturing our growth then we are the latter. So I ask you …. No, I challenge you! What are you going to do about it? How will you grow today? What action are you ready, willing, and able to take?
Will you get up earlier in the morning, today, tomorrow, or every day for that matter to establish a new routine?
Will you say good bye to that vice of soda (diet or regular), or whatever mindless drug you turn to when you are tired, stressed, anxious, depressed, lonely or bored? In order to say….”I will not drug myself…I will deal with my discomfort!”
Will you go to bed earlier to get the rest your body so desperately needs? Even at the cost of missing a couple of t.v. shows that you watch every week?
Will you exercise a little bit each day? More as you are able. Will you push the limits of your possibility and really stretch your boundaries?
Will you challenge yourself each day, one choice after the next? Today is your day if you choose it! Take some time right now to consider what burns inside of you. Sit with the emotions that you often suppress. Put it and the goal that stands between you on paper as descriptively as you can. Now, I want you to make a commitment to yourself today. Share it with someone whose opinion you value. It could be a best friend or significant other, a child or anyone else who will care enough to ask you if you did what you committed to do each day. Choose someone who you will struggle to give them the truth even when it isn’t what you’d hope to report. Because remember, this will be a struggle and you will not be successful all the time.
More importantly than just sharing that commitment with that significant other is to take that first step TODAY and again tomorrow! Do something each day that moves you one step closer to the health and to the life that you deserve. Do something each day that moves you closer to solving the problem that you have been covering with body weight or any other bandage. No matter how big or small, take one step forward each day. Make no excuses about why you did not do it. You are either committed to growing or you are committed to dying. Either way you are committed. Which one will you be committed to? I challenge you to be committed to becoming your fullest potential for you and for everyone whose life yours touches.
By Garrett Stangel, MA, HFS, CPT