I just saw a website selling a T-shirt with the following slogan on it:
“Don’t blame me - blame the Menopause”. Funny right?
I say: "Own your menopause and stop making excuses. You are a strong and active women".
But then, it is much easier to blame somebody or something when life does not go the way we thought it would.
Read about some comments I came across below:
- My husband left me because of Menopause. We were married for 21 years and now he is off with a younger women.
- I am so out of shape because of Menopause. I never looked the way I do now, and can’t do anything about it.
- I can't control my day because of my side effects.
- I hate me because I don’t look and feel like me anymore.
- I have been active all my life and now I don’t want to do anything anymore. Menopause sucks.
I thought of a conversation I had with my mom many years ago. She would say: “You are just like your dad” . I felt bad about myself, blaming myself for…I was not even sure for what.
For the longest time I did not know what she was referring to. Finally, I asked why she would say that to me. Her answer: "You are so direct with the things you say. You always say what you think and you do what you want".
I was surprised! If am not direct (not rude mind you) I would skirt around an issue without addressing the root cause of a problem. I would make excuses for why things are not the way I want them to be or dream them to be.
We don't need to blame someone or something for what is happening in your life.
Let's take responsibility because it's not Menopause's fault that she happens.
No need to be ashamed of her, she is just a part of you right now.
Menopause causes a lot of havoc with our mind and body but we can take charge of it and make the best of it. Don't let Menopause stop you, don't use her as an excuse to not enjoy your life.
When we don't feel good about ourselves our confidence is low and undermines our strength. We are afraid of others looking at us as if something is wrong with us.
That's how I felt for a long time. Like something is wrong with me.
Why was I not accepted for who I am?
Why would my honesty and solution seeking skills be bad?
Over the years I have questioned myself many times to find out why I am that way. I seek the truths and solutions to any problem in my life and don't blame others for any paths I choose. I am sorry that my mom can only embrace me on her own terms.
It is our choice to stop blaming, but accept and embrace how our life is taking shape.
I embrace who I was and who I am now. No excuses and no apologies.
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“You can get discouraged many times, but you are not a failure until you begin to blame somebody else and stop trying.”
― John Burroughs