Thursday, January 02, 2014 • Varese, Lombardy
I was always one of those people to accept a challenge. When someone told me I couldn't do something, I was determined to prove them wrong! Looking back on my life, all of my most exciting adventures and learning experiences were because I was first challenged by someone else or myself. 6 months in Spain followed by backpacking through Europe. Moving to NJ by myself for a new job. Playing rugby in college. Qualifying to run the Boston Marathon. And most recently, an open water swim triathlon. The things I've most regretted are those challenges I haven't accepted or delayed doing. Usually it was fear, thinking I couldn't do it, not believing it would work or that it would take too much time or money. I always have an excuse as to why I couldn't do it. And while those reasons have merit, time and experience have taught me that I can do much more than I think I can, I just haven't found the way that would work for me or I was to afraid. Youth is a wonderful thing as it makes you think you're invincible. That anything is possible. It boosts your confidence. You're more willing to take risks you wouldn't if you were older. You have time to recover if you fail and most failures can be corrected. After all, you're young! As I've gotten older, become a mother, wife, home owner, investor, my tolerance for risk....well, it vanished. I was playing it safe. And with that safety, I wasn't embracing all my potential, all the adventure and excitement life has to offer when you take a risk. When you go for it all! When you dream big and go for it! It's that look people who cross the finish line get. The tears and joy! The months, years of hard work, the thoughts of doubt that were pushed aside, the time and investment to see a goal achieved. It's that combination of joy, pride, excitement when it's achieved. It can't be matched. During 2013 I started stepping outside of my comfort zone. I stopped playing it safe. I realized my daughters were starting to play it safe too and I wanted them to experiment, reach for the stars and if they failed, they'd still land on the moon, having a great story to tell. So I became their teacher. I told them when I was scared and then did it anyway. Hello, Torrii triathlon and open water ocean swim. I started new business programs. I sought out mentors. I opened myself up to new ways of thinking, learning, doing. It wasn't all a huge success, but it was a great experience! I learned a lot, met some wonderful people, grew as a woman and mom and had a load of fun! So now I look forward to 2014 and am even more excited for what it will bring! My goals: a move (new house), a cross-country trip with the family visiting friends along the way, a new car, opening my own studio training facility, new nutrition and training certifications with the top of the industry, more time spent focusing on my husband. What I've found with taking risk is this: 1. Take one step toward your goal each day 2. Surround yourself with people who are positive and supportive 3. Seek out mentors. Talk to them. Learn from them. Read all you can! 4. Post your goals and tell others about them. You'll be surprised how many people will cheer you on or where the support will come from. 5. Look for the opportunities. The excuses will always be there, but so are the solutions. You just have to be willing to look for them. I'm excited for 2014! Excited for all the possibilities before me! Excited to spend some great time with family and friends. Excited to have my husband and girls there with me! So take the challenge! Jump high! Dream Big! Go for it! Be the example you want your children to see! Comment below on what big risk you're taking this year! I'd love to hear from you!