Tuesday, October 08, 2013 • Corona, CA 92883
The sun is shining, there is a coolness to the air. What a perfect day for a "wellness rant." (Feel free to stop reading right now, though I'm still friendly when I rant about wellness.)
This question was posed today on a page I follow:
Do you get bogged down by the scale too?
Weight, BMI, waist-to-hip ratio and percent body fat; which is your best indicator of a healthy body size?
I was going to answer there, but I will answer here: I used to. But maybe age has given me perspective. I don't do the numbers thing anymore--though I do hop on the scale when ordered to at the doctor's office. I have finally realized that I am not a number--on a scale, on a skin fold caliper, or on a tape measure for that matter. I am not the "size" of my body. I am so much more. I am the size of my heart and the size of my spirit--which I hope continues to expand much further than my waistline in all directions. I am a person on a journey--my own journey--and tomorrow my journey takes me across the United States to visit my healthy aging parents. Imagine that--in spite of any numbers on the scale I get to visit my parents again, and take my mom to lunch, and sit and watch movies with her on our old sun porch overlooking the deck that my brother built and furnished with my sister who will be there. It is my sister's birthday soon. I have not been there to celebrate her birthday in many years. I am a person who can take her sister to lunch on her birthday instead of just calling her on the phone or not sending her a card like I usually don't. And my dad will bring me coffee from the WaWa in the morning, and the New York Times, which he no longer reads due to its political slant, but he buys it for me while I'm there. I love that. It arrives, folded in half on the counter right next to my coffee with cream. That will be a beautiful memory for me someday when I need it. Before I even get to my parent's house, I am a person who gets to detour and stay over night at my Pennsylvania sister-in-law's house with my niece who is rowing crew, a sport I will try before I leave this planet, somehow. A girls night! Just the three of us. How fun is that! In the morning, I will talk wellness with my sister-in-law who is also in the wellness business at a special secret breakfast club I keep hearing about. Family + Coffee + Wellness. What can I say? I am a person with wonderful friends all on wellness journeys of their own that amaze me every day--one who has lost 80 pounds and counting--all on her own. One who burst out on the other side of cancer like a football team exploding through a victory banner on a Friday night. One who has the most uplifting Facebook page on the planet and loves coffee like me--so maybe we will meet up for coffee while I'm home. (I think I just mentioned coffee for the 4th time) I will soak in my NJ sister-in-law's hot tub one evening along with my totally cool niece who has a fantastic handle on instagram that I will not share and donates her hair to locks of love. The same sister-in-law who keeps my mother safe and well for me, in the midst of her own crazy busy life, while I am living 3000 miles away. Oh, and I am a person without a dog who gets to walk her favorite dog every morning on a tree lined street that is probably bursting with color because I timed my trip just perfectly. I could go on . . . but you get the picture.
So, you see--right here is my remedy for all those silly numbers on the scale. And maybe it can be yours too. When you look down and don't see what you expected to see, or what the world tells you that you should see if you want to amount to anything, just take out a piece of paper and begin to write. Write about all the things you are and all the things around you that make up the fabric of your life. Keep your pen moving--that's the trick. Don't edit. Think of all the best parts of your life and get them down on paper where you can see them. Even if it's just that you like coffee. Write it down. That's where wellness begins. Connect with all those best parts of yourself and your life and then follow THAT energy through your day from moment to moment--it will take you further than any numbers on a scale, or a caliper, or a tape measure ever will.
Okay. Rant over. Feel free to rant back!
Enjoy the day!