So here we are, it is New Years Eve and myself as well as thousands of trainers across the nation are typing their blogs about fitness goals and how to achieve them. So here is mine.....sort of....
Recently a client of mine lent me a book entitled The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Normally I would have just scanned the highlights and moved on to something more important on my to-do list. If I have the time to read, which is almost never, I would choose a scary thriller over self-help any day. But this one was short, and I read pretty fast.In a nutshell, the author claims that if you follow the four agreements, or codes of conduct ( which I was sure I needed) then you will transform your life to a "new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love." Sounded cool, so I read on....
Inside jacket cover summary:
- "BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD." (this one would be tough) "Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using your words to speak against your self or others. Use the power of words in the direction of truth and love."
- "DON' T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY" (this one would be tougher) "Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering."
- "DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama." (But I love drama!)
- "ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST: Your best is going to change from moment to moment. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret." (The trainer in me thought I had this one down pat.)
OK, I read on. Not only because these agreements sounded like they were something the whole world should be doing anyway, but mostly because I love a challenge. These were going to be tough. They are my New Years Resolutions. Here is how I have adapted them to fitness and health goals. I firmly believe that no lasting change in your body will occur if you do not believe in what you are doing. Change from within. It's not just about being motivated- You also have to believe in your ability.
- First Agreement: Speak only positive statements to yourself about your abilities. No more "I can't do that" or "I am not strong enough or "I'll never make it." Just stop it. Also, all that wasted talk energy can be put to better use. No more negativity towards others either. It will come back to bite you in the ass. Hard.
- Second Agreement: Let go of what others have said about you or to you directly. Don't let them limit you. That was about them. This is about you.
- Third Agreement: Don't make an ASS out of U and ME spells ASSUME. Seriously, ask questions about a new activity. And never ever assume that the latest fad diet or get skinny quick infomercial is going to work.
- Fourth Agreement: Doing your best. Duh. But this one is the toughest when it comes to fitness. We all have good days and bad, but do your best to make even the cruddy days turn around into something positive. Keep doing your best, an all situations, and the weight WILL come off, you WILL get stronger, and you WILL achieve your goals. Promise. I mean it when I say push yourselves. If you aren't pushing yourself, you aren't doing your best.
I am just beginning my Agreements Challenge. I will definitely struggle. My family will probably remind me of my forgetfullness of at least one of these agreements daily. That's OK- I will do my best. My hope with this rather lengthy post is to remind you that as you make your New Years Resolutuions, do not just make them on the surface. Getting fit is a whole body resolution, including your mind. Make change and believe in yourself from within. If nothing really changes then nothing really changes.
HAPPY NEW YEAR AND NEW YOU! LOVE YOU ALL!
Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Today
is a day that many of us reflect on all
we have to be grateful for. This is a
perfect chance to wish you all a
happy holiday, but also inspire some additional
As many of you know, I went to
Atlanta recently for
Continuing Education Expo and
decided while I was there to take a
Tae Bo class with the famous
Billy Blanks. My incredible client
Aimee jumped at the chance
to come with me, as she is now
successfully addicted to exercise
and new adventures! Her over
30 pound weight loss to this date
has not only gotten her feeling and
looking more fit, but her entire outlook
on life has gotten healthier and more
energetic as well!
My point in all of this was to share with you Billy's message to us at the end of class. Our bodies and minds are in a constant battle with one another. We know we should eat right and exercise- our minds know that. We try and motivate our bodies to do what the mind thinks. However, many of us stumble when we let the third player into the fight:
our senses. We see the cookie- we smell the cookie- we can almost taste the cookie. And we fail when we
let the senses win over the mind. Or, with exercise- our pain sensors tell our minds that our legs are sore-
our heat sensors tell us it is hot in the room- and we loose the motivation to continue. Awareness is the key-
know that this is happening- and make your mind and body more powerful than anything that is trying to stop
you. Why? You have been given one body- one mind- and we are only here on Earth for a short while.
Why not make the best of it?
Aimee and I were definitely inspired by Billy's words. They were things we had both heard before- and it is
pretty much my philosophy. But he did such an outstanding job conveying this reality to us.
Be grateful today. Grateful for family, for friends and for life. Be grateful for your bodies and minds. Let them
work together rather than fight each other. Yes- it is Thanksgiving and I am pretty sure we will all indulge
a bit. That's OK. Get back at the fight tomorrow. You are going to win! I am thankkful for all of you!
Finally, a place to share thoughts, ideas, links, exercises, classes, lifestyle, motivations, articles, answer questions etc. I may have nothing left to say at the start of each Spin class....or all day long. This could be a good thing for my family!
I just want to "Blog" first how much I appreciate each and every one of you. I finally figured out in the past 3 years what I wanted to be when I grew up. Thank you to eveyone who has supported me. I, like the rest of you, doubt and question myself at times. We truly keep each other going! It is truly an honor to be a part of your life.
As a mental health therapist (in my "pre-mommy") years, I helped others make positive changes in their personal and families lives. Now, I want to integrate that with body and fitness changes to help clients become their healthiest self inside and out. Lifestyle and fitness changes to do not last if we do not look at oursleves and what has been causing us to not achieve our goals so far. Changing those thoughts about ourselves and our abilities is what will make our new healthy behaviors last.
In the year ahead, I plan on growing my business as I become a weight management and health coach. As I study for my certification, I will share what I learn here. This will make personal training more "personal" for my clients who are looking for that extra something they need to achieve their goals.
Everyone have a great day and keep moving!