On New Year's Day, while waiting for 2013 to arrive, I watched the movie "We Bought A Zoo" with my daughter and husband. The movie is an inspiring story about Benjamin Mee. Benjamin has lost his wife. In a bid to start his life over, he purchases a large house that has a zoo. This is welcome news for his daughter, but his son is not happy about it. The zoo is need of renovation and Benjamin sets about the work with the head keeper, Kelly, and the rest of the zoo staff. But, the zoo soon runs into financial trouble. The staff must get the zoo back to its former glory, pass a zoo inspection, and get it back open to the public. In a scene with Benjamin and his son, where his son is having trouble talking to a girl, Benjamin says "You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it."
That quote hit home. I loved it the first time I heard it. The first time I watched the movie, but this time...well this time it was just what I needed to hear.
I had been thinking of starting a group fitness class for moms and their children for a couple of years. I wanted it to be different. I wanted it to be inclusive. I wanted it to be challenging and fun. I had tried out a few different programs over the years and had finally found one that fit me and what I wanted the moms I trained to gain from such a class. But I was dragging my feet on putting the class into motion.
I knew there was a need for such a class, but, well, its scary putting yourself out there. Would anyone come? Would they like the class? Would it be successful? Am I capable of this?
My current clients, who knew of my desire to get this off the ground, were incredibly supportive. They lifted my spirits and encouraged me that if I put it out there, they would come. My husband was equally supportive and reassuring. But I was still unsure.
That night, New Year's Eve, I had everything put together to launch my first Mommy Recess class. I just needed to take that first step and put the announcement out there. As soon as I heard that quote, "You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it." I turned to my husband and said, "That's it! That's my mantra for 2013! 20 seconds of courage...and something great will come of it!"
I launched my Mommy Recess class announcement the next day. Repeating "20 seconds of courage." over and over again as I put it out there.
Tomorrow is my first class. I've received a lot of positive feedback already and excitement over the availability of the class. (Thank you Jennifer and Katie for signing up in advance! I can't wait to see you there!) I'm still nervous and wonder if I'll be standing there, alone, waitting for participants who don't show. But I'm putting it out there. I'm trusting in my skill, feedback and trial runs, that this will be successful. But in the end, I need to take a leap of faith.
The quotes are endless...."With much risk, comes much reward." "If you don't try, you won't succeed." "20 seconds of courage...and something great will happen." So that's what I'm doing. Putting it out there. Taking that 20 seconds of courage and hoping that it will indeed lead to great things. I guess I'll find out tomorrow.
Till then, I challenge you....What 20 seconds of courage will you take this year to make great things happen?
Yesterday I went on my first run in over 6 months! I felt like a school girl waitting to go on a first date. A little scared. A little nervous. A little excited.
As I laced up my sneakers, I worried if the pain would return. Was I really healed? Had the all the months of physical therapy worked?
I started with a brisk walk to warm-up. Something I know I should always do, but am usually too eager to entertain and just get right to the run. (Do as the trainer says, not as I always do!!!) I felt good. As I got ready to break into a run, my mind screamed no! At that moment, all was fine. I felt good, strong, healthy. My injury was healed. I was good to run. If I started running and the pain returned, meaning the injury was still there, I'd have to stop running again. A new training plan would have to be started. I may miss another triathlon and racing season.
I ignored that little voice. If I didn't try, I wouldn't know. I looked at my watch and started to run.
One minute in.....All feels well. A couple of twinges. Tight quads. Legs feel heavy, tight. Ok, I can go on....
Two minutes in....Still feeling good. Oh, is that my knee? No. Everythings ok. Calm down Jocelyn. Just keep going.
Three minutes in....Starting to loosen up. Feeling better, lighter.
Four minutes in....I can do this! I'm running! The smile returned to my face.
Five minutes in....What I'm done? No! Time to stop now. We don't want a new injury!
Sure its just 5 minutes. But its more than I've done in 6 months. I'm a bit sore today. Quads aren't used to all the jostling from running, but they'll strengthen up. The foam roller has found a few new sore areas, but I'm working them out. Stretching and yoga are my friend and I have better flexibility than I ever have before.
A few more weeks and I'll be running 5ks and not thinking twice about them. I'm trying to learn from my mistakes of the past. Warm-up more. Make time for massage, relaxation, intensive stretching, yoga and foam roller work. Don't ignore the little things. Focus on building more strength.
I'll be keeping the runs shorter this year. Building my strength and flexibility up so they can support longer runs. I'm just happy to be back out there! And enjoying it!!!!
Why? Such a simple question that can uncover so much.
In sales, we're taught to ask why 5 times to uncover the real reason behind something. As a trainer, I find why to also be an important question to ask when my clients state a goal they'd like to achieve. Why that goal? Why is that number/event important? Why that exercise program? Why that number of calories? Why? Why? Why?
Why ask Why 5 times? Often times we first give the answer we think we're expected to give. Then we give the answer we want to give. After a few more whys we give the real answer. The unvarnished answer. The truth of what that goal, that number, that event, etc, really means to us.
Its not that we mean to lie, but sometimes we just haven't examined ourselves enough to really know why we chose a specific goal or number. We often feel ashamed to vocalize our goals. Vocalizing them makes them real. Makes them open to scrutiny. Makes them open to ridicule. Someone else would know if we were failing or succeeding. It ups the risk of that goal. There's now more to gain and more to lose by someone else being involved. Will they be supportive? Will they still "like" me once they know the "truth"? Will they think my real reason for wanting to achieve my goal foolish, silly, unachievable?
Asking the 5 whys breaks down those defenses. You get at the real reason you're doing something. Reasons you may not even be aware of at the start of stating a goal.
Try it! You don't need another person (although having other people know of your goals and assisting you in the process has been shown to help people achieve their goals faster and in the case of weight loss, to keep that weight off longer). Write down your goal. Then ask why? Why again? And so on till you've asked why 5 times. Don't sensor yourself. Just answer or write down your response as soon as you think it. You may be surprised by what you really want to achieve and why you want to achieve it.
Why do this exercise? Because having a goal won't keep you motivated. When you're dragging and don't want to do a workout, your goal won't keep you going. When you need to say no to that extra cookie or serving of dinner, your goal won't give you the willpower to "just say no". But your whys will! Your whys are your emotional reason for wanting to achieve something. That's why we don't state them right away. We don't want to get hurt. But your whys are more important to you than the overall goal. They are what give you the smile and overwhelming joy that takes over when you achieve them. Because you've achieved so much more than just a goal! You've changed a bit of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally to bring yourself that much closer to the "ideal" you that is pictured in your mind.
The new year is quickly approaching. So as you set your goal(s) for 2013, or your new year's resolutions, ask yourself WHY that goal is important. Why do you want to achieve it? Why this goal versus another one? You'll be much more likely to stick to the resolution, goal, longer and be much more likely to achieve it if you know why its so important to you...and therefore, what's at stake if you don't!
Thanksgiving! Memories of fires in the chimney, smells of turkey wafting from the oven and my mom's voice coming from the kitchen, quickly come to mind. I remember playing games with my family, chatting and laughing around the table as we all enjoyed mom and grandma's cooking and begging my dad to change the channel from all the boring football games (eventually he would fall asleep and we'd get to watch something else). I don't ever remember worrying about how many calories I was consuming or whether or not the turkey was free-range organic.
Thanksgiving is still about family, friends, playing games and good food made with love for me. But for many, its a stressful landmine of worrying about what and how much they should eat.
Why don't I subscribe to such behavior? Honestly, its one day! One day is not going to undo all the healthy eating, exercise and treating myself right that I've done for the last 363 days of the year. Thanksgiving is about family, friends, giving thanks for everything we have and FOOD! I'm going to enjoy those family favorites that are saved for this one holiday. I'm going to get in a good workout that morning to lessen my guilt (I normally workout on Thursday, so why not this Thursday?!) for my food splurges later in the day. And I'm going to be thankful that I'm injury free and able to exercise.
What I'm not going to do is stress about the ice cream and real whipped cream that will accompany the slice of pie as they pass my lips. My hips, thighs, butt, abs, will still be there the next day. Maybe I'll do a few more squats on Friday to ensure those extra calories don't find a home there, but I won't stress over what I'm eating on Thanksgiving. I may stress over ALL the cooking, but not the eating!
If you're exercising regularly, eating right 80% of the time, taking care of yourself (rest, relax, getting together with friends, getting regular doctor physicals, etc), one holiday meal is not going to wash all that hard work away. Stressing over it will be harder on your body, than the food itself!
So choose now, to enjoy Thanksgiving. Enjoy the time with family. Enjoy the laughs. Enjoy the games. Enjoy giving thanks for all the many blessings in your life. And most of all Enjoy the food! You have the rest of the year to count calories, watch your waistline and you have tomorrow to work off those extra calories in a killer workout!!!!
I love the off-season. That part of my training where I don't have an event planned for awhile. I get to look back over my last season (not a good one as I was plaqued with an injury!), look at what I learned, make the neccessary tweaks (more speed work, more time spent in the pool, more drills, less endurance runs, train certain muscle groups vs. others, etc) and plan for next season. I always get a bit giddy! The hope, opportunity and challenge the next season will hold!!! I'm reinvigorated to start.
But I also look forward to a couple weeks of rest. Just like a lazy Sunday or sleeping in after a long week, your exercise routine needs a change. I turn the intensity down. I do a lot more stretching, yoga, pilates and stability work. I get an extra massage or two! :) And I choose activities for pure enjoyment versus the event I'm training to compete in next.
Not only does my body get a rest, but so does my mind. I don't have to think about these exercises. I can just enjoy them. I can focus on the environment around me, rather than how far or hard I've run or biked.
And the holidays are always a perfect time for me to take this rest period. My personal and professional to-do-lists overflow with things that need my time or attention. Its nice to be able to relax in my training. I still eat well and get in a good workout, but I get to shift my focus a bit to other things.
Soon enough my training will pick back up and hopefully I'll be cleared by the physical therapist to get back to running (fingers crossed!). And when that time comes my mind and body will be ready for the next challenge. So take your "rest" period. Its just as important for your psychological, emotional and physical states as any other part of your training program!
My husband and I attended the USMC Birthday Ball this past weekend. The USMC Ball is always a special event. Women spend weeks preparing, getting a special dress, shoes, jewelry, their hair done, make-up and the men spend extra care on preparing their uniforms. Most of my clients who are Marine Corps spouses name the USMC Ball as an event they're training to lose weight for and look fit in their ball gown.
At the ball, with everyone looking their best, you hear women talk about all the preparations they did to get ready. Some fasted all day to avoid bloating or to lose the last few pounds. Some did 100 sit-ups and 100 push-ups to be toned where their dress showed off their best assests. Some were on liquid diets. Some had cut out all types of foods from their diets. Some were exercising for hours on end. Everyone seemed to have a technique for being "Ball" ready.
Then as cocktails flowed, the bread basket was passed around, the main course served and the Marine Corps birthday cake cut, you'd see these same women, who had just worked so hard to be at their best, throw it all out the window. Now, I'm just like all of you. An over-worked, over-scheduled mom trying to live my best, healthiest life and I too love, LOVE, a good party! I love looking and feeling my best. So rather than waste calories and time on looking good for one night, or catered food that has sat under warming light for far to long and a generic sheet cake, I'd rather eat and workout for a lifetime of looking and feeling good.
So as the holidays roll around and your special events calendar gets over-scheduled begin with a plan in mind.
Fad diets, fasting and eliminating food groups, may help you to look good for one event, but at what cost. Most people over eat after fasting. I don't know of a single person who has tried a "fad" diet, lost the weight and kept it off for a lifetime. Most of the time, the results are short lived. And you end up feeling worse about yourself once you gain the weight back. And eliminating food groups, that never works. Not only do you end up depriving yourself of neccesary nutritients for brain, cell and bone health, but you also end up desiring the same foods your trying to eliminate!
Instead, evaluate your diet. Keep a food log. A well-published and accepted trial of people who have lost more than 20% of their body weight and kept it off for over 5 years, indicates that a food log was one of three things that helps them to lose the weight and keep it off. You're able to see where problem areas arise. Are you eatting too much sugar? Do you eat too much at the end of the night? Do you skip meals? Are you eatting too few veggies? Plus, writing it down keeps you accountable.
Also, go with a plan in mind for those events. Don't waste your calories on something that doesn't taste fabulous! At events like those, no one cares if you leave something on your plate or if you choose not to eat the sheet cake. Eat well during the day, so you're not starving when you get there. And drink water or a low calorie beverage, cranberry juice with tonic or club soda and a twist of lime is a great option, between glasses of alcohol or wine. It tastes great and still looks like a festive drink!
Why would you punish your body with extra exercise or extra reps for a short term gain? Exercising should make you feel good, increasing your oxygen load, making you stronger. The addage of more is better, doesn't always hold up when it comes to exercise. Sometimes it just makes you more sore, compromises your form and puts you at additional risk of injury. If you're looking for an increase in calorie burn, up your weight or increase your intensity! You can burn additional calories in a shorter amount of time and use that extra time for some much needed pampering, relaxing or girl time!
The key is to enjoy your special events that are coming up. Eat and exercise for long term change. Enjoy the life you're living. A positive attitude, a smile, and a woman who exudes confidence in who she is always looks good no matter what her size or what she's wearing!
It's that time of year again...Halloween! Little goblins will soon be visiting my door asking for treats. And I can't wait!
You see, Halloween brings back the joy of childhood for me. Thinking I was really the costumed creature I was made up to be. (Although I think I'll forget about the year I was a grape. Long story and poor choice by our classroom teacher for a themed class costume of fruit! Thanks Aunty!). And let's not forget, the candy! I still remember the house that gave out full size candy bars! Halloween was always full of a little bit of candy, mystery and mischief.
Now as an adult, a personal trainer and mom, I'm supposed to forget some of those joys. View Halloween candy as evil. Banish it from the house and vow not to eat it.
Soon the lists of good vs. bad candy will come out. Who really wants raisenettes, when what they really want is a Reese's peanut butter cup!
Does that ever really work? Denying myself a craving usually only makes me want it more! And part of the joy living is enjoying the food I'm eating.
Now that doesn't mean sitting down to eat that whole bag of snickers you just brought home, but there are other ways you can enjoy Halloween, it's candy and magic, besides substituting this candy for that one. (Although that does work for some people.)
Some of my clients enjoy the thrill of the hunt. The trick or treating. Seeing friends all dressed up and their children and then coming home to see the "loot" they got. I used to love dumping out all my Halloween candy and putting the "best" pieces aside. (Mainly so my father wouldn't steal them! Love you dad!). You can do the same now. Let your children or just yourself choose your favorites. Then just hold onto those and throw out the rest or donate them to a cause. The USO often collects candy for distribution to the troops overseas. Everyone knows there are those candies you'll never eat and those you'll eat just because they're there. Why not get rid of them right away and just eat the ones you know you'll savor and enjoy?
I have other clients who buy just one bag of their favorite candy. (My husband does this.). Then eats one a night. Often, because its there and you've given yourself permission to have just one, rather than "forbidding" it, you don't even need one every day, but can go a few days and really savor the treat.
Other clients set a goal. If they exercise that day for so many minutes or at such an intensity, they can have one treat. If not, then they can't. It gives them the incentive to push a little harder or longer than they normally would have.
The overall objective is that you can enjoy Halloween with all its mystery, mischief and candy and not blow your fitness, healthy living or weight loss goals. Enjoy the holiday! Enjoy the treats of the holiday! A little planning will help you do that and reach your goals!!!
I remember those first 4 exercises my physical therapist gave me to strengthen my adductors, glutes and deal with a hip fall during my running stride. No resistance, just working against gravity. I almost chuckled out loud. "I'm a personal trainer, triathlete, runner. I regularly perform all kinds of different strengthening exercises. These will be a piece of cake!" Boy was I wrong!
I couldn't perform even 10 hip raises without wincing and needing to stop. All I was doing was standing on a step, dropping my foot over the edge and pulling up through my hip to raise my leg back up. It was such a simple movement and I was having such difficulty performing it! "How could I have such poor strength in my hip? How could I have missed such a weakness? Oh, how this hurt!"
Here I am 4 months later and I can now perform 3 sets of 30 repetitions of the hip raise without batting an eye. We've progressed to exercises of greater difficulty. As I add in these new exercises and struggle to maintain my form, pushing for each rep, I'm reminded of that first attempt at hip raises. I know that with practice, I'll get stronger, better. At some point I'll look at those new exercises and think they too are easy.
We all have exercises or habits that we struggle with. We wonder how we'll get better, when will it get easier. You've got to keep at it. You've got to practice, daily sometimes, to get better. Sometimes its a struggle. Sometimes you wonder if it will work. That's why its good to know where you started. Knowing that I couldn't perform a single set of hip raises without stopping when I started and now being able to do 3 sets of 30, keeps me going with these new exercises I find challenging. At some point I'll look back at them and find them easy too.
I didn't think I'd still be here, recovering from an injury 6 months later. Having sat out an entire triathlon season. Not having run in 6 months. But here I am. Not much I can do about the past, but learn from it. Take stock in my progress. And prepare for next season. My new goal....to be able to start running December 1st. I'm working daily on my new and old exercises to strengthen my injury. Progress is being made and I'm hopeful that come December 1st, you'll see me out there running again with a smile!